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90 Day Fiancé – (Paul and Karine #10) – Pregnancy Test – Therapist Reacts



Dr. Kirk Honda, couples therapist, reacts to Paul and Karine. Includes clips from 90 Day Fiancé, Before the 90 Days season 2.

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    Oh god, “encouraging emojis” can cause pregnancy? Why did nobody warn me of this before I sent you some?? What are we going to do? Is there a combination of “discouraging emojis” that acts like the morning after pill?? 🙅🏼‍♀️👎🏻😷

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    Yeah right, I am praying, he needs some “come to Jesus moments”

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    Karine put up with a lot of crap from Paul. She is young and was flirting, so what? Perhaps if she understood where he was coming from, it would have helped her know how hurtful it was. We have all been young and dumb at some point. He continued to accuse her of cheating, even with her trainer in KY, and that she ran off with him and Pierre. All the tests and accusations created the disdain for him she grew into later.

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    That Paul is deeply, deeply affected. He needs help 100%

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    It's possible to be friends with people if the opposite sex.

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    Paul deserved that.

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    Ah he’s so awful 😡😢

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    as soon as paul asked for another pregnancy test, karine should have rannnnnnnnnn. like omg, who would stay after that. paul, should have bailed at this point too bc karine is clearly cheating. even if she isn't banging these guys, she is clearly putting herself into a position of question and it isn't worth it to play these high school games.

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    So… She said no to the pregnancy test, then he goes and buys one and puts it in front of her pressuring her again to take it. When she "pranked" him saying it was positive, he looked at it and actually thought it was positive. Why didn't he buy a test he could read?! I don't understand Paul lol

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    with the way karine is acting, she isn't a trustable person. if she wanted him to trust her, she shouldn't have left the comments she did on those other guys pics. i would never leave comments like that and expect to be taking seriously

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    Please do a video about Colt and his mom, Asuelo and Kalani and Andrei and Elizabeth next.

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    Paul is incredibly controlling. There's really no excuse for his behavior. Lots of people go through tough experiences and don't treat their partners this way.

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    paul is stupid and the pregnany test solved nothing whatsover. what is he going to do? ask her to take a test everytime he flirts? she will be taking a test every day

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    I don't get it, maybe I'm just naive but I don't think I am. If she's talking to other Americans online, how is she getting pregnant? I always thought that you have to actually be together and do the deed, but if you can get pregnant through the phone or internet, I need to stay off social media, God forbid I'd get pregnant. Lol 😂😂😂
    I think she said once that she's talking to other man online and them sending her money, cos he doesn't support her or help her financially, even after they had the baby. Maybe if he treated her better and supported her and the child she wouldn't have to talk to others and ask for financial help.
    I can't stand Paul

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    Brazilian here. It’s fairly common for Brazilian girls (Karine is pretty young) to talk to their friends, men or women in that way. Girls like Karine are culturally also very childish until a much older age than american women would be, imo.

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    This is horrifying. No woman should owe anyone on-demand updates on the status of their uterus. One test becomes two and so on. He clearly doesn't view her as a whole person.

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    Thank you deserving doctor 😁

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    I'm confused, when he says "other men" it seems like it was actually only 1 and it was her friend?
    And so….what, his plan is to have her take a pregnancy test every time they're apart for too long? He barely even looked for an explanation before jumping to such an extreme. It's strange in the first place that he thinks a pregnancy test = cheating test, she certainly didn't cheat here but even if she had, you can cheat and not become pregnant : His offended reaction to her "no" was doubly (triply?) concerning. He's not entitled to make a serious accusation followed almost immediately by an invasive demand without giving the other person a right to process, respond, discuss etc. It gave me serious "no respect for bodily autonomy" vibes…especially since he bought the test ANYWAY even after she said no instead of talking to her more.

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    Paul's ideal relationship:
    – "Good morning, Paul."
    – "Good morning, sweetheart. Here's your pregnancy test for the day."
    – "Oh, thanks!" kiss

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    I’m just patiently waiting until Dr. H gets up to the more recent episodes – piece of work Paul.

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    Many Brazilians already said, but I want to confirm. We kiss anybody to say hi or goodbye in person. Emojis are a way to express something that is already part of our culture. She is not even understanding his concern.

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    If only karine walked off 😪 and continued walking back home. Instead she stuck around with this bum

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    Idiot buys Portuguese pregnancy test but doesn't bother to figure out which sign means pregnant vs not pregnant! Blarg

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    I hope no one minds me to say, Karine is absolutely gorgeous, yikes.

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    What behaviour is Dr. Kirk talking about at the start of the video?

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    Wow! This is so horrible!!!! He’s just treating her like a walking uterus!!!! She’s a person with agency over her own body!!!!

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    added on 24 Sep, 2020
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    7:04: "Feeled." Haha

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    I hate How aggressive he was when he held the phone to her face and was like “what’s that about, what’s that about?!” Also the obsession with the pregnancy test is disgusting

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    The only teeny tiny gripe I have with these vids are pausing just to repeat almost verbatim what happened in the segment just shown… Whyyy lmao. We were watching, we heard it! Repeating and/or simplifying without additional input isn't needed and makes us feel stupid. But it's just a tiny thing, love these videos to bits xx

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    I would be suspicious myself, but I've seen with my own eyes a person who acted almost flirty with everyone around, in real life or on the internet. Hugging, emojis, lots of cutesy words. Some of his friends coming from more reserved cultural backgrounds were actually confused about his feelings, and he himself never noticed and never thought much of such behaviour. You just can't judge these cases outside of the cultural context.

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    I knew a girl in my early 20's. She convinced her ex she had gotten pregnant. Since they were coworkers, she kept the joke running for years, "Your son is six months now / a year old now." Who does that?

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    I get that Paul has been traumatized in the past, however if you are so traumatized then you should get some therapy before starting a new relationship. It’s healthier. Karine is obviously talking to other men for sending her money bc she knew from day one that Paul would not be able to provide for her as he claims and she had to earn money herself. She took the test bc she knew she wouldn’t be that stupid to get pregnant by another man. Now if she had sex is another thing. In the last days I’ve heard she is pregnant and that she has another boyfriend and that Paul claims she is bipolar. I don’t think there is something wrong with her. I just think she is fed up with his laziness and the point is they didn’t match from the very start

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    I was thinking while talking to that communication should be taught in schools. I mean actually class on it and role playing. If people were taught howe to communicate properly with others and learn how your speech can affect people in how they behave towards can eliminate misunderstandings.

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    Does anyone know where I can read more about the allegations? Dr. Kirk keeps referencing them, but idk what he's talking about.

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    He can't trust her word for anything, she should demand him to go to 10 therapy sesions everytime he insists on pregnancy tests…
    Your take on this seems biased. Kind of defending him. She is flirty, she should not use emojis (to men) if she knows his boyfriend will be checking her every online move, it is good for her to take pregnancy tests if it avoids conflict with him, no matter how she feels about it.
    He is not just anxius, he is controlling and overly jealous!
    How would you feel if you were asked that?

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