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It's Time to Talk about Psychological and Verbal Abuse | Lizzy Glazer | TEDxPhillipsAcademyAndover



Psychological and verbal abuse are the most common elements of domestic violence, yet they are the least talked about. A survivor of domestic violence, Lizzy Glazer, discusses her experiences. In her TEDx talk, she identifies five common signs of abuse, acknowledges the guilt and shame victims feel, and raises awareness of the invisible scars of psychological and verbal abuse.
Lizzy is a student at Phillips Academy in Andover, MA, USA. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at

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    added on 28 May, 2020
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    these thoughts are so true

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    added on 29 May, 2020
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    Why don’t abusive people see they are sick and seek help ? They can’t possibly think this behavior is ok – and how could they gain pleasure from it ? It’s unnatural

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    added on 30 May, 2020
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    My parents and stepparents are malignant psychopaths and sociopaths who's greatest joy in life is traumatizing [others], although I do believe that ultimately not being able to murder causes them great frustration and leaves them very unsatisfied, but it wouldn't surprise me in the least bit if they'd found a way to make even scratching that itch possible. Cheers

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    added on 31 May, 2020
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    Very harmful. Especially when they keep abusing you when you've asked them to go away and take their hateful energy with them.

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    added on 2 Jun, 2020
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    Sometimes the things that are said are not that obvious or overt which can make it really hard to spot verbal abuse.

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    added on 4 Jun, 2020
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    Thank you sis.

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    added on 4 Jun, 2020
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    I was verbally abuse by my own mother since I was a young boy until now this is a reason why I'm watching these

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    added on 5 Jun, 2020
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    thank you for talking about this i have been in mental abuse for years but my sister and mom got us out mostly

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    added on 10 Jun, 2020
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    Coercive Control–look this up!

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    added on 12 Jun, 2020
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    I couldn't even listen to the end when her life went positive because I know my mom's never leaving him

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    added on 15 Jun, 2020
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    When i was young i had exact same situcation.

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    added on 16 Jun, 2020
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    This was great, thanks, I been tryin to find out about "instant mind control" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across – Wonlivia Mindhammer Manifestation – (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some super things about it and my mate got excellent success with it.

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    added on 25 Jun, 2020
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    Yep I know exactly what she’s talking about this is so true especially with an alcoholic. Drunk 😩

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    added on 25 Jun, 2020
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    Psychological abuse is horrible it can destroy your life

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    added on 25 Jun, 2020
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    Yes and both is bad too

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    added on 25 Jun, 2020
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    ALL FIVE

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    added on 25 Jun, 2020
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    I think verbal abuse is way more damaging than physical abuse. Words hurt more than actions 💔💔💔

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    added on 29 Jun, 2020
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    My husband choked me and punched me and I called the cops but took back my statement saying we got into a fight and that’s it, I think two months later I got a call back from the cop asking me if everything is good still and he asked me if my statement was truthful for that day he was right there so I said yes, later on I told me husband that and he was upset how come they didn’t call him asking how he is doing…..and I was like uhh you punched me and you wnat them to ask you how you are doing?!! He said he never truly wanted to hurt me

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    added on 1 Jul, 2020
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    Kids have a rough time of it.

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    added on 1 Jul, 2020
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    A lot of women claim to be verbally abused if you argue at all with them. I didn't insult them, i didn't call them names, i just argued facts about a situation. Then they say "you didnt respect my feelings and that is abuse" . uhhhh, that is so abstract and ambiguous ……your feelings make you right? Yeah you get to own yoru feelings, but that doesnt automatically make your arguments all valid because you had feelings about them. pfft. its insane how they claim abuse these days.

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    added on 3 Jul, 2020
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    Be aware they can be narcissist, psychopaths or sociopaths. THEY WONT CHANGE IN FACT IT WILL GO TO WORSE

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    added on 5 Jul, 2020
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    Facts!!!

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    added on 13 Jul, 2020
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    It hurts more than anything.

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    added on 13 Jul, 2020
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    Felt each & every word of yours. Your own family is where it all starts from. it affects your life in such a way it seems almost impossible for you to get out from.

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    added on 15 Jul, 2020
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    the most hurtful word my mom said to me was you are the worst thing in my life

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    added on 15 Jul, 2020
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    My mum brutally psychologically abused me and I now do that to myself and others
    My goal is to end the cycle of pain.

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    added on 16 Jul, 2020
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    "Dont you know how much i love you?" that one threw me off because its one i dont hear

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    added on 24 Jul, 2020
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    We will not be accepting GOD or Jesus today unless they undergo licensing and certification and provide proof…too many Jesus wannabes out there.

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    added on 25 Jul, 2020
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    I can feel the "sigh" you made when he moved out, it's truly relaxing..bliss

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    added on 26 Jul, 2020
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    I suffered both physical & emotional. I can say physical is better. Emotional is worse

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    added on 28 Jul, 2020
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    How do you deal with post trauma from having a childhood like this? Inam experiencing this hard right now.

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    added on 31 Jul, 2020
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    Thanks….. U r lovely

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    added on 2 Aug, 2020
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    My previous "boyfriend" was psychologically abusive. He was a psycho. Always threatened me and hold me back from doing anything that made me happy. I was trapped by him. I was luckily brave and strong enough to leave him.
    My current boyfriend is psyhically abusive. We've been together for more than a year now. He started to hurt me half a year ago.. Slaps me, tries to choke me. Kicks me, and hits me. He even bites me. All from anger. Because I said something which he doesn't tolerate. I don't know what to do.. I am trying to change him by thinking twice before I eve say anything, but he doesn't seem to change. Or want to change.
    I am broken. I always think about how he hurt me in every single weekend that I have spent at his house. I could cry. But also, he is the most loveable person I've ever met in my life. I love him. And I know he loves me too. I just can't find a solution to this problem and I can not bear it longer.. Please help.

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    added on 2 Aug, 2020
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    Thank you for this video, I needed to see things more clearly and now I do. I’m taking back control of my life

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    added on 5 Aug, 2020
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    This is very relatable and painful.

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    added on 11 Aug, 2020
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    Reminds me of my father. Still have to live with him. He is a covert narcissist and the worst is, when you try to tell someone about the psychological abuse and all the say is "how do you know he is narcisstic, your not a therapist" or "he once helped you, he wouldnt do that if he wouldnt love you"

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    added on 22 Aug, 2020
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    This situation is as similar as mine to the core

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    added on 24 Aug, 2020
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    I'm the Punisher

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    added on 28 Aug, 2020
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    You have a lot of experience many could benefit from. You’re doing the right thing here. And you look great. Very pretty.

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    added on 2 Sep, 2020
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    stay strong🔥

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    added on 3 Sep, 2020
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    My mom always used to say: "don't you know how good you have it"? 💩 And why didn't my dad protect us..?!

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    added on 3 Sep, 2020
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    🙂

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    added on 5 Sep, 2020
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    Yes — the arguments in your head…battling with the abuser, even if they're no longer there.

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    added on 9 Sep, 2020
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    Thanks! I felt better after hearing this although I cried throughout the video. But it did release some of the pain.

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    added on 13 Sep, 2020
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    The same has happened and happens to me with my mother. I am stronger now, but the pain that caused me is not forgettable. We are more than they say.

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    added on 15 Sep, 2020
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    It seems like a narcissistic parent

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    added on 17 Sep, 2020
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    My mother would insult me and when I reacted badly, then say " What – don't you have a sense of humor?"

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    added on 19 Sep, 2020
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    I am suffering from this since many years..I want to get out of this 😣😣

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    added on 20 Sep, 2020
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    I have had a very abusive childhood and an equally abusive ongoing adulthood. Quiet similar to your situations. We are not allowed to laugh, to talk, to think or even eat what we like. We have to live as per their wish in totality. This is sick and inhuman. Adding to the atrocity, he lashes out on us as and when he want. But the saddest part is there is no rescue from the whole thing.

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