Psychological abuse – caught in harmful relationships | Signe M. Hegestand | TEDxAarhus
What makes people stay in psychologically abusive relations? Watch this personal talk from TEDxAarhus, 2019, where psychologist, Signe M. Hegestand talks about the unconscious patterns that shape our behaviour.
Signe M. Hegestand is an authorized psychologist, psychotherapist and Mindfulness Instructor. In her work, she has been focusing on psychologically abusive relations, because – as she says: “Psychological violence is overlooked, destructive and destroying.”.
In autumn, 2019, she published a book about moving on after a psychologically abusive relationship. “I want to raise awareness of how unconscious relationship patterns affect our love life, so that people can create healthy and loving relationships and nurturing environments for children to grow up in.”
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at Signe M. Hegestand is an authorized Psychologist, Psychotherapist and Mindfulness Instructor. In her work, she has been focusing on psychologically abusive relations for the last 5 years, because – as she says: “psychological violence is overlooked, destructive and destroying”. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at
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Love died a lo g time,now am just in fear of the consequences….living in an alcoholic relationship…never thought i wld b here…
Women file 80% of all divorces and if she has a college degree then it's 90%.
Just imagine premarital relationships.
Women look in the mirror?
Amazing truth!
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New world order needs to build upon CBT. We need psychological facts these facts needs to come out from books
I'm learning to set boundaries. In the process of setting and maintaining boundaries I don't care about those who are trying to show me a lesson.
just because men dont talk about it as much…doesnt mean they dont suffer from it as much….they do! do the researh….better yet….ask…there are wayyyy too many narcissistic women out there
This is a very common form of abuse and leaves mental scars for many many years
Attachment is a vey big problem as the result from emotinally abusive parenting and causes a whole hist of problems for future families and generations
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Awesome. I'm learning to say no and yes to myself. Enough with psychological abuse. We deserve better!
Any book recommendations for someone in this type of relationship and not knowing what to do next? This describes me exactly 🙁
Please pray with me. He threw my bags out on the streets Easter Sunday in covid and sent me divorce through email 2 days later.
I want to get back in my home with my sons and I now have to go to court this month I have been married 22 years happily but this year was rough and I think there's another woman.
He is pressing charges where he gave him so much emotional abuse. She is right is hard to prove. But it's there
sounds like the root of the issue is parenting – how people experience love and respect (or lack thereof) from the very beginning – which makes me wonder if there even is a way to fix this problem as a whole society. Is there a way to teach people how to love and respect their kids? God…that question is sad. I try my best not to make the same mistakes my parents did, but parenting is so damn hard sometimes. Having the parent perspective now has helped me forgive them.
This is so relateable to me thank you for helping me understand myself and why I am the way I am
I want hug you all I was able to leave a abuse relationship n domestic violence I have healed my self n strive to help other women do
So spot on!! 😊 I identify with this, one thing not mentioned that's true for me is that I also struggle with being fairly emotionally unavailable because my feelings were not important. Luckily I am learning a lot thought different 12 step programs. ❤
Very true and very good message
Excellent thank you
🦋thank you.
Stayed with a narcissist 12 years—5 months no contact
Thank you.
Or- “See what you made me do/say!?”
Thank you for this post.
Yes the person who cheated!!
Exactly, no physical marks
This makes me want to cry
Yeah… I don’t think I’m ready to hear this. 🙏😓 nobody understood why….. and I still don’t.
Can you tell me what other people said make you so sad? What is psychological violence at school? I need your help to know apparently about this matter?
Telling the lie on court documents that a mother has been hospitalised numerous times for mental illness when he knows that is not true after he was charged in a previous divorce for contempt of court is one extreme example of a psychological abuser who is like a driving rain to all the poor. Such kind of abussers do exist however family courts outside of the U.K. are not ever brought to justice and instead those who have been vicimized by that kind of emotional abuse before it escalates past the grey area to dometic violence are blamed for it all to later be lectured for the rest of their lives endlessly about how they need to change only because it is much easier for professionals to do so than confront and treat the abusers. So my ??? for all professionals including Signe M Hegestand who are working in the mental health field is, "How much are You all willing to do for love from now on too?"
I thank you very much for the inside look of how much this type of behavior affects some of the people that have been put through this. I experienced something similar and I somehow overcame this with a stronger will and authority against it as a result. You opened my eyes to the fact I may push against loved ones in my life to strongly because I was able to overcome and not see the fact some may not have. Bless you.
“How do you prove a crime that leaves no physical marks and the only witness is the victim?”
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Story of my life dawgz
In my life, it's the woman who is the emotional abuser. I will say that nobody should have to be subjected to emotional abuse. She does it to our child too. Unfortunately, I am a man and have no legal options in this society.
lost met at 2:22
Perfect.
When ever I come to ted talk I realise that world is very big. I am happy to see there are people like me
thankyou what is the name of the book please?
This is happening to me right now. Im a man. My girlfriend is an emotional demon
I'm still going through this abuse …..I dont know what to do…I was being threatened…and I'm scared…. feels like I got to talk to someone professionally but couldn't do it
My girlfriend and step children suffered horrid abuse in a previous relationship for years and my girlfriend to suffer at the hands of her narcissistic mother and sister. I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years and still helping her not to say sorry for everything and helped her get over her dependency for alcohol.
Great
Im a man and an NPD survivor. I hate it when people act like it doesn't happen much to men. It happens much much more then dodgey statistics will tell you. I bet many men don't even recognize that they were abused psychologically and emotionally. My heart goes out to anybody in this boat no matter who they are. Light attracts darkness.
Anyone else feel trapped
Abuse can come from many sources – neighbours,' freinds ', employers, landlords & more.
The emotional abuse, is most often behind my back, yet of it, I am aware, whereupon, it's returned to its generator/sender/owner.
That sort of abuse no-one needs. Now, you have another way to rebuff, such abuse. 🙏☺️
I finally left an emotional abusive relationship that was almost 5 years. Now that I took all the courage to leave, the transition of being and finding myself is more difficult than I thought. He broke me down so well that I can’t think on my own. I feel guilt for leaving because everything I felt and did was proved to be wrong by him. I know things will get better from here but it was truly a traumatic experience and will impact me for the rest of my life.
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Thankyou. What do I need to day NO to for love. That was s shock. I'd never thought of that before.
Does it ever go away? the feeling of being scared all the time? Sometimes I remember all the abuse like flashbacks, does he ever go away?
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