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The Virtue Of Being A Victim : The Psychology of Pity



From your average “Karen” freak-out, to high profile media figures like Amber Heard, it often seems everyone wants to be seen as a victim. What are the costs and benefits of being a victim, and what features define the psychology of victim-hood?
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    added on 5 Sep, 2020
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    donation study was bad, they gave them money to donate, thats way different than using THEIR OWN money to donate, very big flaw

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    added on 5 Sep, 2020
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    I am 10 minutes in, and its already one of the best videos I have seen in a really long time.

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    added on 5 Sep, 2020
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    You're missing the main thing, despite the importance of the points you make here.

    The attitude that's being spread among conservatives — "better to say I'm not a victim" — leads them to downplay the facts of their systematic victimization by those societal structures that are run by progressives. That includes most colleges and media, and many public schools, courts of law, government agencies, and corporations. Worse, it leads most of them to fail to fight against this victimization seriously; and to refuse to even consider using the sort of full systemic recourse that the law has undertaken to provide against systematized discriminatory victimization. Instead they console themselves with the theory that it shows they're you strong to say "I'm not a victim" and move on, and would make them a sniveling coward to say they're a victim and fight back to defeat the victimizing structures. In reality it is this running away from the problem that is cowardly.

    Since the systematic, deliberate victimization of the Right by the Left runs through the very core of the American body politic, it is more harmful to the integrity of our public life than all the other victimizations, real and imagined, combined. It is dangerous, not noble, to fail to acknowledge it in full, and to neglect to use against it the entirety of instruments of recourse, including legal and institutional ones.

    And yes, that is probably like to include, as Jonathan Haidt advocates but on too small a scale, making honest use – unlike the too frequent dishonest use – of affirmative action and training sessions in tolerance and sensitivity. Probably this is the only way to overcome the entrenchment of their dishonest use for ideologically discriminatory purposes — by using them in full to overcome the ideological discrimination, which has put the discriminators in a position of unchecked arbitrary power.

    2. The other victim-claims, while often real and important in themselves, are in most cases used as a part of this struggle for the left's power to victimize disagreement, not as a genuine concern for victimization of a minority. In other words, the real purpose of most leftist victimhood-claiming is to struggle for power to accuse and shut up conservatives and penalize them for who they are. It has been very successful in this, since left-dominated institutions have refereed it. It has become ubiquitous, so much that it is accepted as par for the course.

    The usual progressive victimization-claimant is not a sniveling weak person, as our Nietzschean Rightists tend to say in a form of consolation for their defeats, but a power-hungry person who identifies with the leftist powers-that-be in the dominant social institutions and wouldn't dream of rebelling against them. Most victim-claimants see this, accurately, as the way up in the power structure..They play the game ruthlessly.

    We need less Jordan Petersen and Nietsche, more of classical liberalism and commonsense conservatism.

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    added on 6 Sep, 2020
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    This information furthers my belief that the best society is a monocultural ethnostate where men and women occupy separate spheres of productivity.

    Reduce intergroup competition to the bare minimum for a functioning society and you solve most of the problems facing society today with “diversity”, “feminism” and “multiculturalism” being the only major casualties.

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    added on 6 Sep, 2020
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    I blame the victim

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    added on 6 Sep, 2020
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    I was planning on making sexist jokes, but your video is too well done

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    added on 7 Sep, 2020
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    These "victims" such as Amber Turd & Monica Liar wouldn't know a real victim if one fell out of the sky & landed on their big, dumb heads.

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    added on 7 Sep, 2020
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    It looks like people conflate any type of victimhood with martyrdom these days.

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    added on 7 Sep, 2020
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    Prime example is John Boyega

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    added on 7 Sep, 2020
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    if you are a permanent victim the perpetrator you should be hating is yourself.

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    added on 7 Sep, 2020
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    The transition from ad to video was smoother than a baby dolphin

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    added on 8 Sep, 2020
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    Hey I loved your appearance of EFAP

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    added on 8 Sep, 2020
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    I'm a victim of circumstance via bullying, while I'm shy spoken on par of autism and negative childhood experiences, i'm better training to defend; I'm not the best people person, but i'm the better combat ready person you'll ever find around here.

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    added on 8 Sep, 2020
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    Didn't even click on this video, it autoplayed while I was doing something else and I just listened while I worked, and this was so fucking interesting. Thank you for the work and research you put into this, holy shit.

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    added on 9 Sep, 2020
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    Becky/Karen been a problem long before the culture war..tho they started the culture war..and been doing the best in society over anyone for a minute..ask any real minority group who pisses them off on the daily..them or their male counter part..the former always and forever.

    For LOLs but why u think us Gs idolize 🙍🏿‍♀️ vs 👱‍♀️? Hint: we dont like weak vapid ppl 😉 and us and our besties talk mad crap on Karen/becky. Then again I notice everyone does regardless of race sex orientation or politics. Yes becky/karen no one likes u. Why ur best friend always tries to steal ur man behind ur back and daddy gives u money vs spend time w u

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    added on 9 Sep, 2020
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    Liked for the thoroughness and professionalism, but mostly for the expertly-timed Kirby music.

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    added on 9 Sep, 2020
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    Interesting that those who view themselves as victims are more willing to justify less-moral behavior.

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    added on 9 Sep, 2020
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    17:00 "competetive victimhood" – this explains all of the outrage and triggered behaviors

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    added on 9 Sep, 2020
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    Please provide links to the sources you've sited instead of just where you got them from.

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    added on 10 Sep, 2020
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    This very video drips of sacred victimhood!!!

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    added on 10 Sep, 2020
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    I agree and disagree. I think some of your beliefs are grounded in logic but blocked by personal perspective/ understanding.

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    added on 10 Sep, 2020
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    Hollywood/ world wide showbiz entertainment feeds on this psychology of beliefs and emotions.

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    added on 10 Sep, 2020
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    Some people play a victim, but some people really are victimized and oppressed.

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    added on 11 Sep, 2020
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    Wait did you really compare blm to Karen’s?

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    added on 11 Sep, 2020
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    you really need to discard rich people squabbling… its just not relevant… literally nothing that the .001% of people do is relevant… they do not live in the same fucking world! Here is a lovely fun thing that most people can relate to, do you know someone that is beautiful? Maybe rich as well ? Have you ever spent time with them and seen how other people react to them? Maybe you sat down at the bar and had a meal with them and noticed the procession of people offering to buy them drinks and offering them jobs?

    Pretty girls are the gods of this world and the demigods are pretty boys… chics could have been running t his world long ago but its a pain in the ass and they suck at it so make the man things manage whether or not the factories can sources materials and sell product or make laws…. the princesses want to think about what drapes to hang and they goddamn well should because they own this fucking world, the idea they would want to adminster the bullshit is insane….

    I used to fear death, but thank you modernity I just don't even give a fuck anymore.

    "Some say the end is near
    Some say we'll see Armageddon soon
    Certainly hope we willI sure could use a vacation from
    This bullshit three ring circus sideshow"

    I'm legitimately done with all the stupid, I am sooo fucking done with all of it.

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    added on 11 Sep, 2020
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    I'll be honest I'm struggling to understand, it's a lot of facts and figures being said quickly and I'm not able to take in what you're saying

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    added on 11 Sep, 2020
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    Truly exquisite use of memes.

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    added on 12 Sep, 2020
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    Martyrdom is the only way a man can become famous without ability. – Schopenhauer

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    added on 12 Sep, 2020
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    nOoo not yotsuba ;3

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    added on 12 Sep, 2020
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    Diesel Patches' vid comes to mind, the one about the PoC dude who was going around on chatrooms talking to people about racism, particularly the caucasian dude who was telling him about his caucasian friend who got stabbed by PoCs, and all the kid was saying was "put yourself in my shoes"

    I hope he changed

    EDIT: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yKqoC8Lol4s

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    added on 12 Sep, 2020
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    basically, "when empathy goes wrong"

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    added on 13 Sep, 2020
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    Dracula was right then. Humans are miserable piles of secrets.

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    added on 14 Sep, 2020
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    Man, never liked grappling. Kicks are more up my alley.

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    added on 14 Sep, 2020
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    I really don't get how some people can act in these ways, I can't even stand the idea of taking advantage of someone else for personal gain.

    I remebered a decent sum of money I borrowed from a more well of friend during a period of financial distress for over four months and when I paid him back he had forgotten about it himself.

    I don't bicker about inconsequential matters, and I rather accept the slightly smaller piece of a share or forgive a non-criminal grievance (as long as it's not repeated) just to get it over with and move on.

    It might be because I'm on the spectrum (Asperger's, ADD, bipolar), but I don't have enough energy in a day to waste it on unnecessary conflict, unless someone I am completely sure to be innocent is targeted.

    Although, I'd rather take the punch or verbal abuse for the person than attack myself, because I don't give a shit and I know I'm in the right.
    I suppose I might technically and hypothetically gain from it, as the person might remember me if they see me in a similar situation?

    I really don't understand friendship the way others have described it to me, and while I like being around them and can "act normal" it is very draining, but they don't judge me and I trust them and treat them with due kindness and generosity for considering me as their friend, as long as they don't abuse it and prove me wrong.

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    added on 14 Sep, 2020
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    I, a rando in youtube grant you this: the grade of P.H.D. on Youtube essay videos.

    Good sh*t.

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    added on 14 Sep, 2020
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    I'd say the initial victim status can flip the following personal experience:
    1) you get some help as a victim, overcome the obstacle, become stronger and move on
    2) your victim status gives you no bonuses so you instinctively try to overcome this status faster coz it not beneficial
    3) you realize (consciously or unconsciously) the benefits of the victim status and try to recreate this status in more manageable (less harmful for oneself) to claim benefits

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    added on 14 Sep, 2020
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    Is she using the Minecraft baby zombie noise for the bleep?

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    added on 15 Sep, 2020
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    This is why we must no longer glorify the victim, only survivors, and strivers who push ahead to rise above. Those who become victors over their own hardships and tragedies. Be more like Frederick Douglass and Chris Gardner rather than Talcum X or Bell Hooks. I know it was hard to overcome the knee jerk reactions to victims thanks to 24 hour news and the internet. But, you need to out long enough to get the rest of the story so you don't fall prey to professional victims….playing you once again in another con for the scarcer resources most of us work through the pain and endure to attain.

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    added on 15 Sep, 2020
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    13:13 "It looks like Cube's come down with a case of the crumbles. I read about it on Wikipedia, the free online encyclopaedia that anyone can edit!"

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    added on 15 Sep, 2020
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    Insightful video :>
    I had to cut off a friend of mine because they ALWAYS saw themselves as a victim and would complain about how much everyone hated them, and how miserable things were for them and use that as an excuse to avoid responsibility or show any care for others. It was terrible. This video helped me better understand their actions. Thanks!

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    added on 15 Sep, 2020
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    Holy shit I found your channel! I thought I'd be looking forever

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    added on 16 Sep, 2020
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    Shared history? You mean… they're both sons of Abraham?

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    added on 16 Sep, 2020
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    This is not a full study on victim-hood. It can be argued that this is very biased, not only because they are using groups like blm and #metoo as examples in larger proportion to other groups (like the alt right or anti-maskers), but if you see the comments, there is a lack of variety in terms of political views and such. I would take this video with a grain of salt. It seems many in these comments want to run with the "leftists control everything" jargon, they are perpetuating the very thing they are condemning. I felt sketched out in the beginning of this video and now I see why. This sort of bias is dangerous to have as a psychologist so I hope they aren't conducting experiments. I would personally search up these experiments myself; maybe even question their validity. For all you know, there could be biases in those as well. There is too much being left out here to support a biased claim. If I were you I would approach this video with caution and be wary of what I consume. This video takes the mask of an informative piece on victim-hood as a psychological concept, but really it just feeds the echo chamber. Whatever you beliefs are, I don't care. For the sake of ethics and unbiased truths, I implore you to be a little more skeptical.

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    added on 17 Sep, 2020
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    just found out about your channel! , you're awesome!

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    added on 17 Sep, 2020
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    6:30
    What this whole segment talks about brings to mind the difference between the fear and hatred of white people expressed by the BLM and non-woke white people's apprehension towards BLM:

    The BLM treats the outgroup; white people, as evil.

    White people often don't identify with each other race wise (largely because western "Political Correctness" won't allow it), and those who won't admit to crimes they haven't committed, might be worried, not for having any wrongdoing exposed, but to be judged as monsters regardless of whether they are guilty or not.

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    added on 17 Sep, 2020
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    Based on the information in this video mean girls was an accurate portrayal of victimhood?!

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    added on 18 Sep, 2020
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    This video is making me hate humans.

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    added on 21 Sep, 2020
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    Lmao, isn't this YouTuber known specifically for shutting down whenever someone shits on her?

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    added on 21 Sep, 2020
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    meh. Perpetrators exist. Victims exist. Personal discernment applied to each context is primordial.

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    added on 21 Sep, 2020
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    These inter victimhood groups never last. They always eventually start to eat their own

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