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This Is Paris #5 – (Trauma) – Therapist Reacts



Dr. Kirk Honda reacts to The Real Story of Paris Hilton – This Is Paris. Includes clips from This Is Paris (YouTube).

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    Come on you have to admit her boyfriend was being a dick. She kept trying to appease him but he got worse and begged him to stop she was about to go on stage. Imagine the nerves you would have building up before going on. She was calmer with him than I would have been he nearly broke the computer with the set on it. Don't forget she would've been paid alot of money to do a set. It is a job and she has big obligations. He was a messy annoying drunk she was calmer than I would be.

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    Loving these episodes

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    This happened to me. It was horrible. I am glad it’s getting me attention.

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    i DISAGREE BOTH PARIS PARENTS ARE NARCISSTS SIMPLE.

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    💔

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    Oh 🙁

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    Mother looks like she is lying

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    Aren't these the types of places you see Dr. Phil sending kids? He has even had those people come to their houses and grab the kids tn the middle of the night. Either to bring them to the show, or to a facility.

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    I'm surprised that Paris still talks to her mother. I would never want to do anything with my parents if they did that to me

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    maybe if her parents were actually around and raised her she wouldn't have acted out so much. her parents are so spoiled and lazy

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    when ever i hear those people decades later saying that it was a good thing their parents did to them is the same mechanism that happens with for example severe hazings with fraternities in college, you have to find a way to justify why this horrible thing happened to you and why no one protected you, so you eventually make these mental gymnastics with oh it was all worth it. Tho I dont think we need to go that far ever, people justify abusive behavior from parents in all kinds of ways.

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    Is interesting your comment about the dynamic between Paris and Nicole, because that same pattern occurred with their aunts and mom, if you watch The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, there you find the same dynamic between Kyle and Kim, their mother sisters.

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    And we wonder why the super rich can so often lack empathy. Makes you wonder about trauma and global economics

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    Dr. Kirk Honda, everything you’ve said about these schools and these situations is spot on and so concisely said. I’d like to add though, that often the parents are convinced that their child is “bad” when their child just doesn’t respect them or is just doing normal teenage things. This is what happened to me and I was a victim of 2 WWASP schools as a result. They convinced my parents that I would end up “dead or incarcerated” because I would stay out late with my boyfriend. This was the verbiage they loved to push on parents, no matter what your child was actually doing. I will never be the same as a result.
    Thank you for all of your wisdom on this though! It has been life changing to hear a professional sympathetic** opinion from someone with true experience with these outcomes.

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    This is exactly why I used to rage at all these shows like Ricky Lake, Dr Phil, SJR, Steve Wilko who used to glorify these types of schools & the thugs who kidnapped the kids to gleeful, schadenfreude feeling baying audiences. It is, was & always will be disgusting. Especially! In the cases where Dr Phils like “yeah, tbh it’s really the parents fault so we will send you to some classes but I still think we will send your kid to one of these schools.” Like GTFO.

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    The kidnapping is beyond disturbing, but to be woken up in the middle of the night from your sleep? For a girl to be woken up like that by grown men…how can you not have nightmares. And I have yet to hear she was doing drugs/drinking. "to save her life" her mom says? From sneaking into clubs as a teen?

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    Parents suck and this video should have a warning. I was not ready to hear this.

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    I can’t believe these “schools” even exist and are LEGAL in some states. It’s so awful. The damage they do to a young, developing mind is horrible.

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    Her parents weren’t worried about her, they were worried about their image.

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    parents who do this should be jailed forever. how dare they.

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    I just love these commentary videos and your insights about Paris. Thanks so much for taking the time to do this for us 😊

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    I BELIEVE EVEYTHING PARIS SAID AND WHAT SHE DID NOT SAY I READ BETWEEN THE LINES AND SHE DID NOT DESERVE THAT. HER PARENTS ARE NACISSTS AND I BELIEVE NARCISSM IS A DEMON IT IS A SIGN OF DEMON POSSESSION. SORRY NOT SORRY.

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    i cant wait for ur part 6.

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    added on 25 Sep, 2020
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    I love it here !

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    I wonder if a possible reason for the kidnapping of children from their beds in the middle of the night is to psychologically terrorize the child so that they’re broken down and submissive. I also wonder if parents send their children to those types of boarding schools as punishment moreso than to help the child. I don’t ‘buy’ that the parents don’t know that these places are intense and abusive. In Paris’s case, I think her parents sent her there to banish her so that she wouldn’t continue to ruin the family’s reputation.

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    I remember hearing my dad tell my mom that I was a devil child and suggest that I be taken to one of these schools. I was 10 years old and the worst I had done was talk back to him when he screamed at me for no reason (he had a really bad temper). I remember him telling my mom that I was born to lie, and everything I told her about him were lies and therefore, to stop me from "tearing the family apart", I should be taken to these schools. Good thing my mom protected me and didn't let him do it, because who knows where I would be if she had allowed it. I feel like whether or not the kids are bad enough to go to these schools depend so much on the parents. A parent's normal kid can be another parents devil child. To other adults, I was just being a kid, but to my dad, I was the worst thing he had ever encountered. So these kids can literally go to these schools not because they were bad, but because their parents think they were bad. The parents have all the power to control what happens to their children, and it's so awful that simply based on their judgement, the children's lives can be ruined forever.

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    What causes the children to exhibit the extreme behavior to begin with?

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    I was assaulted by a close family friend at the age of 11. He told me he would hurt my little brother (nonspeaking and autistic) if I told anyone. His wife was my little brothers speech therapist, and he had full access to our home- so I made myself forget about it. Even though I didn’t acknowledge what happened, I was still so hurt, angry and scared, that I morphed into a monster over night. But because of the timing everyone assumed I was just another angry teenager going through puberty. I was yelled at a lot, and once I even overheard my high school teachers in the hallway talking about me as a weirdo and a problem child. I thought so too. I grew up believing that I was just genuinely bad, and that I was a rotten person to the core. All this to say that hearing your compassion for Paris and other teenagers like her made me feel like I could forgive myself for the things I did and said. Thank you.

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    I’ve always liked Paris Hilton. A lot of people thought she was spoiled and maybe so. But no child should have to go through what she did. Instead of having someone going in and taking your child give them an option of rehab. Work with them.

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    I relate so much. I am constantly in fight or flight and I don’t even realize when I’m triggered. Today I had my appt to get a referral to therapy. Jumping through the health care hoops and after calling in July I finally have my first appointment in November.

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    It's pretty hard to see everyone involved in perpetuating this system (parents and camp employees) as anything other than shit human beings. All you need to know to steer clear is that your child is going to be forcibly taken in the middle of the night.

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    I just say this; I'm no fan of Paris Hilton, but I feel bad for her that her parents did such a thing to her.

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    Why would parents violate their child and think that’s going to help anything?

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    Can you talk about nightmares at some point. This is a big problem in my life.

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    I always thought Nikki was older… wow my mind is blown.

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    Omg she went through a lot. No wonder why she has recurring nightmares. I lived in the US for 5 yrs before I go back home and never heard of such a thing where parents pay to have their child go through all of that. There must be another way parents but not this one💔💔💔. Am a mom and this freaks me out can’t imagine the agony comes with this for both parents and child.

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    In my situation it was a man and a woman. I also screamed bloody murder for my dad. The man said “do you want this the easy way or the hard way?” They wouldn’t explain to me what was happening, just like Paris. I saw my dad with my stepmom & half sister come out of the garage as I was being shoved into this SUV in handcuffs. My dad was crying… he didn’t want me to get sent away. My half sister found the horrible school “Copper Canyon Academy” now known as “Sedona Sky Academy” because of lawsuits. I was there 05-06 (age 15-16) had my sweet 16 there AND my father actually passed away while I was at this school. Still traumatized and I am 30 now.

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    No one could convince me that her parents had no idea what was going on. Her mum's complete lack of reaction is to me a dead giveaway. As well as the justification of what they chose to do to her.

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    My brother was sent there because my mom wasn’t able to discipline him..he would often throw things and destroy our home when she doesn’t get him a new camera or a new phone..we basically moved from state to state because he was tired of living in the state that we were in, and she was so afraid of him so she had to do whatever he wants. (I know, this is like putting fuel to flames, but she didn’t want to have to deal with him constantly breaking things and she still is afraid of him to this day)…so when after he literally burned our home in california down, we moved to ohio and that was when she thought enough was enough and sent him away to Utah. At the time it was a relief for both my mom and I because I wasn’t constantly afraid of him breaking and throwing things for a while..it honestly was traumatizing for me everytime I had to be afraid that he was going to start breaking things and throwing things anytime..and it was more painful seeing my mom hurt.but now he comes back and he still hates my mom for it and still break stuff and threaten my mom whenever he doesn’t get anything his way

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    I can't imagine being in a camp without any support and being punished by force getting hate everyday, poor Paris.

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    This reminds of the kind of bull shit that the 8 passengers mom Ruby did to her son Chad. Anyone else?

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    I'm not so sure how bad all this is if the end result is a life of freedom from addiction and a life free from all the problems that partying too much will get you drinking and driving finds penalties jail sentences if this situation could eliminate all of these things in the future I'm wondering how bad it really is I know there's a price to pay but I'm wondering if it's not a value

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    Have you ever said sorry to mom and dad? Umm have your parents ever apologized for the trauma? The sister is super toxic to Paris.

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    added on 26 Sep, 2020
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    lmal i don't have to imagine myself in this situation, my parents did this to me when i was 19

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